Men want pretty girls.
But more often than not, they find themselves head over heels in love with a mediocre or *gasp* an ugly girl.
When this happens, you get confused. You didn’t even like her the first time you saw her. How in the hell did this happen? Why did you fall in love with this girl?
Does she have a heart of gold? Is the beauty really in the eye of the beholder? Is she your soulmate? Did she change and actually become prettier after you met her?
No, no, no and hell no.
Here are the possible reasons why this happens:
#1) You Craved Female Attention
Women want the top men. Even the mediocre or ugly ones believe that they deserve a handsome, rich, strong, high status man. They are delusional and illogical.
The top 10% of the men get all the female attention and the remaining 90% get almost nothing.
All men are born with a burning desire for women. This desire surfaces when puberty hits, so no matter where we are at the attractiveness scale, we want girls.
But sooner or later, the reality hits like a ton of bricks. If you are not at the top 10%, you are out of luck. You notice that girls don’t pay any attention to you at all.
One day, you start to get scraps of attention from a girl. If she is pretty, you suddenly fall in love. If she is mediocre or ugly, it takes longer to fall in love with her because you have to first rationalize her unattractiveness. You need to convince yourself that she is special or she’s the only one who understands you or she has a heart of gold and so on. These are all bullshit of course, but never underestimate the lengths the human mind will go to rationalize his/her most bullshit decisions.
Once you manage to rationalize why you should be interested in this plain Jane, the process is complete. You fall in love with her.
You dig yourself a grave and now you will lie in it. Nothing good can happen after this.
More than 90% of the time, she will friendzone you and this will cause you to fall in love more with her because a mediocre girl rejecting you will damage your ego and the only person that can repair the damage is that same mediocre girl you fell in love with.
You will complain to your friends with sentences like “I didn’t even like her the first time I saw her. How did this happen to me?”
The worst of all is, unless you take measures to prevent it, this pattern will keep repeating itself.
After you manage to get over her, another mediocre girl will happen to pay attention to you and you will fall in love with her.
Because, the problem is not the girl. All girls are the same.
You can’t fix all the girls, so you must fix your problem.
You need to increase your attractiveness to women and rise among the top 10% of the men so you are never deprived of female attention.
#2) She is Sweet
If you are one of the lucky few men (at the top 10% of the attractiveness scale), you will have a good amount of female attention.
You want a pretty girl but no matter how many girls are interested in you, you are still not exempt from the risk of falling in love with a mediocre or an ugly girl.
The whole system of life is built on value. All creatures have strengths to exploit value and weaknesses that result in its value exploited.
Sweetness is an extremely powerful weapon in a girl’s survival arsenal.
Men have a weakness for female sweetness. As a result, all girls are born sweet to exploit this weakness. Next time you go out, look at all the little girls around. They are all cute and sweet. When they act sweet, they get what they want from men. Sweetness is a survival strategy for them.
In the current state of the society, most of them lose this natural sweetness as they grow up. Weak fathers, single moms, feminists or thirsty men rob their sweetness on their way to adulthood. They grow up to become bitter and bitchy. They develop bad attitudes. The modern woman is mostly bitter and miserable.
Men are repulsed by women with attitude, no matter how hot she is.
At the current state of the society, finding a sweet girl is not easy. All men want sweet girls but there are not enough girls who managed to keep her sweetness until adulthood.
When a desirable man meets the rare sweet girl, he will be drawn to her.
Even if she is mediocre or ugly, a desirable man can still fall in love with her because of her sweetness.
If you are this man, recognize that you love her for her sweetness, not for her other imaginary qualities. You should ditch her and channel your efforts towards finding a hot and sweet girl. They are rare but they do exist.
Sweetness has the power to attract low value men too but girls usually don’t use this powerful weapon on the men they deem unattractive. This is the reason why a girl can be a complete bitch to some men but a charming sweetie to another man.
#3) You Lost Confidence Because of Earlier Rejections
I often see good looking, well-off men with mediocre or ugly girls. This used to confuse me because he could easily get a hotter girl. Why was he settling with this girl when he could do better?
I came to the conclusion that these men are mostly the victims of their glass ceiling.
They faced a few rejections from hotter girls, so their confidence is shattered. They truly believe that they are incapable of attracting hotter girls. So, they settle for the uglier ones.
They are unaware of the colossal mistake they are making.
First of all, rejection is normal. Girls are extremely delusional creatures. Even if you are Brad Pitt, there are millions of girls who will still reject you.
A few hot girls rejecting you doesn’t mean anything at all. A sample size of 1-3 girls is not enough to measure your place on the attractiveness scale. You have to play the numbers game before you can reliably tell where you stand.
Nobody tells these good looking, well-off men that they can do better, so they truly believe that mediocre or ugly girls are the best they can do.
If you are this man, understand that rejection is normal. You should hit on more women until you find your true value in the sexual marketplace. Tinder doesn’t count as hitting on women. You have to interact them in the real world.
There’s nothing to fear because even if you don’t do well, you can still improve yourself and access prettier girls.
The worst-case scenario is going back to mediocre or ugly girls. Well, that’s already what you have, so you have nothing to lose.
#4) You Were Horny and She Seduced You
Like I previously said, the entire dynamics of life is built on weaknesses and strengths.
Horniness is men’s weakness and this weakness is constantly exploited. You pay for porn, go out to clubs to meet sluts and overpay for drinks to be in a loud and undesirable environment, and so on. I can give countless examples but you get the point.
Women exploit the horniness of men too. When you are too horny, even the mediocre or ugly girls will look sexier to you. If a mediocre woman catches you in this situation and she is feminine enough to seduce you, you may fall for her. This only happens when she doesn’t actually have sex with you. You want to fuck her but if she is smart enough, she will not give it up until you are head over heels in love with her and she secures a commitment from you.
If you catch yourself in such a situation, do your best to fuck another woman. When your horniness subsides, your chances of saving yourself from this predator will be easier.
Men frequently fall in love with mediocre or ugly girls.
I listed the four common reasons why this happens.
If you find yourself in such a situation, you must go through the reasons and diagnose your problem. You must fix this problem because no good can come out of a relationship with a mediocre or an ugly woman.
All men can improve their attractiveness.
Your options are endless.
The more you improve yourself, the prettier and sweeter girls you will get.
Your current situation doesn’t mean much because there is no limit to male self-improvement. There’s always a way you can make yourself more attractive.
Avoid mediocre or ugly girls at all costs.
Have higher standards and put in the work to reach them.
Until next time.
-Your friend, Lane.