Mistake #1) You Are Timid
This is #1 because if you are timid, correcting the remaining mistakes in the list will not help you much.
Unfortunately, timidity is the most common mistake men make when they are trying to be attractive to women.
Women are attracted to masculinity.
Timidity is a feminine trait.
Yet, most men act timid around women and lament that they have no sex life.
Timidity is the biggest attraction destroyer.
Write this down or get it tattooed on your forehead:
WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO TIMID MEN.
You must learn how to be assertive or you will forever struggle with attracting women.
Mistake #2) You Have Bad Posture
Bad posture is another major attraction killer.
It’s baffling to see too many men struggling with this when it’s fairly easier to correct.
A good posture is not only attractive to girls but also will help you to be successful in life.
You must do whatever it takes to correct your posture. It’s that important.
Strength training will automatically correct your posture.
You can also take a look at Cernovich’s alpha male posture exercises.
Mistake #3) You Believe Looks Don’t Matter
I don’t know who started this but nothing could be further from truth.
Looks. Matter. A. Lot.
Women are attracted to good looking men.
Good news is, any men can improve his attractiveness by getting in shape, correcting his style, grooming his hair and building muscle.
Mistake #4) You Believe Girls Don’t Like Muscles
We are all products of evolution and the #1 rule of evolution is “the strong survive, the weak die”.
Physical strength is men’s job. Women have different strengths.
A physically strong man is attractive to women.
I built an extra 12 pounds of muscle this year and the difference in attention I get from women is enormous.
Mistake #5) You Believe Being Yourself is Enough
“Be yourself” is the most alluring pick-up advice because it requires you to do nothing.
Except, it doesn’t work.
If you are not born with male model genetics, or to a rich family, you must improve yourself.
Every man is competing for a small pool of attractive girls, so every improvement you make matters.
There is always something you can improve.
Self-improvement opportunities are endless.
Don’t settle for just being yourself.
Mistake #6) You Believe Women Should Not Be Attracted to Men with Money
So many men complain about girls and their love of money.
Women love opulence. It’s their nature.
The richer you get, the more attractive you will be to women.
Instead of complaining about reality, acquire more resources and make the reality work for you.
Mistake #7) You Dress Lousy
For the last 3 years, I’ve lived in tropical countries.
Most foreigners go out to chase girls with shorts and sandals. I have to thank them for outing themselves from competition.
Always dress your best. Girls are attracted to men who dress well.
Mistake #8) You Make Girls Your Priority in Life
I believe in Rhett Butler, he’s the only cause I know.
-Rhett Butler (Gone with the Wind)
Girls don’t want to be the priority in a man’s life. They are attracted to men with a mission.
Making girls your priority in life reeks neediness and girls will smell that.
Your priority in life should be you.
Mistake #9) You Believe in Mainstream Media Advice
Mainstream advice for getting girls is, be yourself, compliment her, be nice to her, take her to dinner dates, buy her flowers and so on.
These things are OK only AFTER you get her. You do these to reward her when you are already in a relationship with her. Not when you are trying to attract her.
Besides, many men believe in Disney/rom-com movie kind of romantic love and soulmates.
I assure you 99.9% of the time, she is not your soulmate.
Girls are incredibly selfish and they are in it only for themselves. What soulmate are these movies talking about?
Mistake #10) You Are Terrified of Rejection
Girls hate making decisions, they hate responsibility, they act on emotion and they change their minds at the drop of a hat. They are fickle.
There’s no strategy in the world that will constantly and reliably attract all the girls.
Rejection is an inevitable part of dealing with women, so you better get used to it or you will have to settle with low quality women.
Mistake #11) You Believe There’s a Right Moment to Act
James meets an attractive girl at school. He wants to ask her out but he’s waiting for the right moment. She looks busy. There are upcoming exams and she’s studying. Time passes and while James is waiting for the right moment he sees her holding hands and kissing with another guy.
This story is common and there are countless versions to it.
There’s no right moment in life. Things will always get in the way. Be bold, make your move and see what happens. The worst thing that can happen is rejection. It will not kill you. I lost count of how many times I got rejected but last I checked I wasn’t dead. There’s always other fish in the sea.
Mistake #12) You Take Attraction Advice from Women
Girls think different than men. When they say something, it usually comes from her dream world, completely off from reality. When she says “buy her a flower” she is thinking of her crush buying her a flower. Like I previously said, these are the kinds of things you do AFTER you attract the girl. Not when you are trying to attract the girl.
Moreover, women are not consistent creatures. They have no qualms about saying one thing and doing the complete opposite.
They will say they like polite guys but they will go and bang assholes.
Their advice will certainly steer you wrong. Listen to them at your own peril.