Yesterday, I was talking to my girlfriend. At one point in our conversation, she said:
-You are never scared to lose me.
I never told her something like that, but it’s true.
She could leave me today and, sure, I would suffer for a while but I would be ok with that.
I love my girlfriend but it’s not about her. It’s about my attitude towards life. Nobody is indispensable.
Can you imagine the peace of mind I have in my relationships?
A willingness to walk away is not limited to relationships and it has enormous benefits other than a peace of mind.
#1) A Willingness to Walk Away Indicates Abundance Mindset
A scarcity mindset will result in holding tight to whatever you have, because if you lose it you think you can’t get it back.
A man with an abundance mindset knows that resources are abundant. He isn’t scared of losing a relationship or a business deal because he is aware that life is full of opportunities.
#2) A Willingness to Walk Away Eliminates Neediness
Humans have a natural disdain for needy people.
Moreover, neediness is a huge attraction killer. No woman wants a needy man. Men don’t want needy women either.
A willingness to walk away completely destroys neediness because it indicates you are self-reliant.
#3) A Willingness to Walk Away Projects Confidence
When you walk away from a deal or relationship, it means you are confident that you deserve a better deal and you will not settle for anything less.
Confidence is a crucial component of success. If you are not confident, you will not succeed.
#4) A Willingness to Walk Away Projects Strength
Sometimes walking away from a relationship or a business deal will hurt your short-term well-being. The business was making you money or the relationship was making you comfortable.
When you walk away, you may experience setbacks. You may have to sacrifice instant gratification. Most people don’t have the strength to deal with losses, even if it’s short term. Moreover, most people can’t resist the temptation of instant gratification.
A willingness to walk away shows that you have the strength to go through rough times and you are strong enough to wait for delayed gratification.
#5) A Willingness to Walk Away Projects Fearlessness
Fear is one of our strongest emotions. We are living in the most comfortable times in the history of mankind. Food is abundant, we don’t need to fear starvation. We don’t need to go out to hunt wild animals. Average life expectancy is at its highest, we live safer lives.
But, humans are more fearful than ever. Fear is mostly unwarranted and it’s the #1 factor setting men back in life.
When you are willing to walk away, you project fearlessness. You are not scared to lose money or women.
This fearlessness will allow you to move ahead. Cowards don’t make it far in life.
#6) A Willingness to Walk Away Is The Key to Freedom
If you are not willing to walk away from a bad relationship or a bad deal, you relinquish control to another person.
People are cruel.
If they smell your fear to walk away, they will control you.
Someone else controlling you is the opposite of freedom.
A free man can do anything he wants to do. If you feel that a relationship or deal is restricting your freedom, you are free to walk away.
It’s your way or the highway. You live your life on your terms.
#7) A Willingness to Walk Away Protects Your Integrity and Self-Respect
A self-respecting man has boundaries and principles.
If a deal or relationship requires you to walk over your boundaries or principles, you must walk away.
Nobody or no money is worth giving up your integrity.
People come and go but you don’t. You can’t get rid of yourself. So, you must keep your integrity.
#8) A Willingness to Walk Away Protects You From Being Taken Advantage of
If you are unable to walk away from a bad deal or a bad relationship, you are guaranteed to be taken advantage of.
If you are willing to walk away, nobody can take advantage of you.
You just walk away if a deal or a relationship doesn’t serve you.
#9) A Willingness to Walk Away Helps You Get What You Want out of Life
A willingness to walk away indicates abundance mindset, confidence, strength, fearlessness, and integrity.
These are the common qualities of successful people.
Successful people get what they want out of life.
#10) A Willingness to Walk Away Will Bring You Peace of Mind
When you are not afraid to lose, you fear nothing.
Most people are scared of losing what they have.
You can lose your job or your money. Your girlfriend or wife can dump you.
It’s life. Anything can happen.
A willingness to walk away shows that you don’t fear any of these outcomes. As a result, you will always have a peace of mind.
In 50th Law, Robert Greene writes that 50 Cent’s key to his success is his willingness to walk away.
In The Art of The Deal, Donald Trump writes that his willingness to walk away from bad deals is the key to making good deals.
In Winning Through Intimidation, Rober Ringer writes that a willingness to walk away allows getting the best real-estate deals.
A willingness to walk away is a well-documented key to success in life.
Always be willing to walk away.
-Your friend Lane.